A devastated woman says shes begged her boyfriend of 4.5 years to propose but he still says he needs more time to be certain shes the right person - and people have all told her the same thing A Reddit user asked for advice about her relationship as shes desperate for her boyfriend to propose but he wont A Reddit user asked for advice about her relationship as shes desperate for her boyfriend to propose but he wont
How long should you be together before one of you proposes?
Its an age-old question which no one has the answer to but its plagued a lot of couples as one half frets that its too early or too late. If its left too long a hopeful girlfriend might start to worry that her partner just doesnt see a future with her and they will never get married. Thats what happened to a woman who posted her predicament on Reddit. She wrote Me 27/F and my boyfriend 28/M have been together for nearly 4.5 years now and have known each other much longer. I would say our relationship has been amazing for about 3.5 of those years.
A frustrated woman wants her boyfriend to propose Get the news you want straight to your inbox. Sign up for a Mirror newsletter here . Early on in our relationship about 1 year in weve both talked about our futures and relationship expectations and both agreed that marriage is important to us. I made sure to make it clear that I am not a flashy person I dont want an expensive ring or an expensive/flashy wedding etc. I know a lot of other couples relationship strain can be from high material expectations.
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When we talked about our futures in the past it was made clear we would get married when he finished his medical program. Fast forward to him finishing his medical program over a year ago — still no engagement. Reddit users think he wants to get married - but not to her I thought maybe he is just waiting to be done with residency and to secure a permanent position — alas that has been achieved as well — still no engagement. The woman said she got very anxious about it all and decided to bring it up with him again. He told her that marriage was still his end goal but that he wasnt completely sure and needed some more time to think it over.
Since then I have slowly lost confidence hope and feel like I am wasting my time with someone that after 3.5 years of being together is still thinking wrote the heartbroken woman. Some told the woman that if he wasnt sure after 4.5 years he never would be Im getting to the point where its hard for me to function and I have doubts about our future. She begged for advice and said she fears she isnt good enough for him struggling to watch their friends get engaged and married over the years while they dont move any closer. The general consensus on the comment section was that she should leave the man because he clearly cant see a future with her.
I think the line where he said he wasnt sure and needed more time to see about our relationship is really telling that he probably wants to get married but not to you wrote one. Like if youve been with someone for nearly five years whats there to see? Another agreed I do feel bad for her but the signs all point to him never going to be ready. A third urged her End it if he wanted to marry you he would have. However a couple of replies were more supportive including one woman who said she and her husband waited ten years before they tied the knot. Others suggested the couple take some time apart from each other to figure out what they really want.
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